Her death was a blessing, to be sure. And it is a comfort to know that she was no longer afraid... she smiled everytime we prayed with her during those last weeks. That in itself was worth everything, because she had been so fearful. We are so thankful to Pastor Steve Becker and to the Chaplains from Hospice. They helped her so very very much. And thankfully, she is finally free from the terrible pain that she suffered from for so very long.
The staff at Oak Creek Terrace, the nurses and aides, led by Carla Becker from Hospice of Greater Dayton were fabulous. Our family is so incredibly grateful to them for the care and support they gave to Mother, and to all of us.
Watching her slip away that last day was difficult. I couldn't bear to leave her side, yet I wanted to escape. We played music for her, especially her favorite: "Somewhere" by Barbra Streisand. She adored that song, and begged us to play it for her when she was on her deathbed. And we did. It was difficult, but it's what she wanted, and we were determined to do anything for her. We planned her her memorial service, and I think she would have been pleased. Pastor Steve presided, and we had traditional readings and music. And we included some other things that I know in my heart would have pleased her very much. We played "Somewhere" by Barbra Streisand at the end of the service and there were bowls of Milky Way bars for people to enjoy. Milky Way bars were Mother's favorite, and the main staple of her diet for the last couple of years. And now that's she's free, I'm sure she's in heaven, soaring freely along the milky way!
From Mother's Funeral:
Order of Service
I love you Mother. You are in my heart today, and always. Happy Mother's Day